You’re curious…
and you want to do this right.
If you’ve been thinking about Shibari but aren’t sure where to start.
This is the safest place to begin.
Most people who walk through our doors have never done rope before.
We guide you step-by-step in a structured, instructor-led environment where you can learn safely, build confidence, and explore at your own pace.
San Diego's Longest Running
Shibari Rope Education for Beginners and Beyond
Guided, not chaotic
You’ll learn step by step in an environment designed to reduce confusion and overwhelm.
No pressure
You’re allowed to learn at your own pace; no expectations.
Solo or partnered
You won’t be left standing wondering; you are welcome as you are.
Clear expectations
You’ll know what class to take first, what the environment is like, and what comes next.
More than A Decade of Instructional Excellence!
You Are Not Delivering Rope. You Are Delivering a Feeling.
What's the First Step?
Attend the
"Getting Started" Class
How? Click the Start Here Button
✔ No experience required
✔ Come solo or with a partner
Welcoming, friendly and informative
I learned about All Tied Up San Diego through friends, a few years ago. I’ve been curious ever since, but couldn’t quite work up the nerve to go since I’ve never been involved in the kink community. Boy, am I glad I finally attended the getting started class last night! Dan and Renee instantly put me at easy with their delightful and welcoming personalities. The class was very informative, and Dan and Renee both made it really easy and comfortable to ask questions as they covered the subject matter thoroughly. I believe I’ve found a new passion. I can’t wait to attend the next event! I just turned 60. In my opinion, it’s never a bad idea to try something new regardless of your age. You might learn something surprisingly delightful about yourself. If you’re on the fence, just do it! What have you got to lose?
I'm glad I went
I was shocked at how much I wasn’t aware of. I went in with the intention that I would learn a thing or two, but I quickly realized how much I didn’t know before coming to the class. I am certain I will avoid mistakes going forward simply because I attended. I highly recommend going.
Already taken the Getting Started Class?
You’re in the Right Place If…
- You’re curious, but unsure how to begin.
- You’ve seen rope and thought, “That looks interesting… but intimidating.”
- You want to explore safely without guessing or risking harm.
- You don’t know anyone in the community yet.
This Is a Controlled, Instructor-Led Environment
Every class is designed to be safe, supportive, and intentional, so you can focus on learning instead of worrying.
You Belong Here Before You Feel Confident
- You don’t need experience.
- You don’t need to “fit in.”
- That’s what you’re here to build.
You Learn the Right Way From the Start
- We don’t skip steps or throw you into advanced work.
- Everything is taught in a clear, structured progression.
You're guided every step.
- No guessing. No pressure.
- We show you exactly what to do, and why it matters.
Your First Step Is Simple
Attend the
"Getting Started" Class
You don’t have to commit to anything beyond this first step.
Just come in, learn, and see how it feels.
✔ No experience required
✔ Learn foundational rope and safety
✔ Understand communication and consent
✔ Build confidence before anything more advanced
Special Event - April 11th, 2026
Curious what grows after dark?
Beyond the garden gate, something lush and dangerous has taken root. Winding vines curl through shadowed paths. Dark growth spreads where indulgence and restraint intertwine. Rare flowers bloom in the dark, vines curling quietly around prickly need.
Garden of Indulgence is a sensual, sinister landscape where beauty and darkness grow side by side. Step out of the ordinary and wander through a garden of dark elegance, quiet tension, and curiosity.
The Dark Circus Menagerie tends spaces where freedom and structure can grow together. The environment is carefully cultivated so guests can relax, explore at their own pace, and move through the garden knowing the space is well supported.
Nothing is required. Everything is optional. Respect, consent, and presence guide the evening.
This garden leaves room for everything to grow. Attendance is limited.
Want to join?
If you have not taken the Getting Started Class, do that and you are eligible to attend!
Click Here for More Information
What they are saying about
the Dark Circus Menagerie!
"The Dark Circus Menagerie Black Rose Society was an absolutely incredible night! I’ve always loved ATU events, but DCM has brought it to a whole new level. Candles and roses everywhere, sultry lighting, evocative music, delicious food, sexy scenes and dressed up lovelies draped on couches and flying in rope… A decadent feast for all the senses. Can’t wait to return to play again." - Deximia Rose
"The Dark Circus Menagerie is a new addition to the SD kink scene ... It is on the upscale side of things with a changing monthly theme that allows for dressing up and role playing if that appeals to you. ... The food is ... not to missed. The main play space is ideal. It's open, easy parking, the air temperature controls work. The restrooms are well lit, clean and spacious. The people are friendly and relaxed. There is room to spread out and do your scene. Booth seating along the wall if watching is more your speed. Monitors patrol the space to ensure everyone is following the rules.... Take the plunge and I think you'll be adding this event to your monthly calendar." - Michael
Safety is Paramount
and So Is How You Feel Here
This is a place where you can explore something personal,
at your own pace, without pressure.
Welcome and Belonging: All Tied Up San Diego welcomes people of every race, ethnicity, body type, gender identity, sexual orientation, age, and experience level. Whether you’re curious, nervous, excited, or unsure… You will be treated with respect.
You’ll see people here who are brand new, experienced, nervous, confident, solo, partnered, and everything in between.
Our goal is to provide a learning environment where every participant feels safe, valued, and listened to. Whether you are brand new to rope or have years of experience, you are invited to explore at your own pace under the guidance of our instructors.
We celebrate diversity and are committed to fostering a culture of mutual respect and consent.
Your Safe Path into Shibari
Are you like others who have fantasized and been fascinated by the enchanting world of Shibari rope bondage, yet struggling to find the right path to explore this art form safely and responsibly?
You're not alone.
A lot of people are drawn to Shibari…
but don’t know where to start safely.
Many individuals share your passion for the beauty and intimacy that Shibari offers, but find themselves frustrated . . .
- by the lack of trustworthy, reliable resources and qualified instructors,
- from online videos and articles that leave you feeling confused about techniques and safety precautions,
- or attending events where the person hosting is tying newcomers in complex ties, even suspensions, with no education, communication, or even consent,
The fear of potential risks looms large. Like any skill, learning the right way matters, and we guide you through it step by step
There are things you simply haven’t been shown yet, and that matters for safety.
This is where you learn the right way, step by step, safely, and without pressure.
Here to be your guide
At All Tied Up San Diego, we understand your desires and concerns. Whether you want to tie or be tied, we're here to be your ultimate guide on this transformative journey.
Our experienced instructors are not only experts in the art of Shibari but also passionate about emphasizing the importance of consent and safety. We offer structured classes, courses, and workshops designed for everyone, from beginners to experienced practitioners, providing clear, step-by-step guidance.
Join us, like thousands before you, and let us help you transform into a confident and skilled Shibari practitioner, creating beautiful and meaningful connections while ensuring your exploration is enjoyable and secure.
All in-person participation follows a prerequisite-based system to ensure safety, readiness, and consistent training standards.
Step One: Getting Started Class
→ Your required first step. No experience needed.
Getting Started Class: This class serves as a prerequisite for newcomers to the All Tied Up San Diego community. It focuses on essential knowledge about rope, safety, anatomy, and the basics of tying and being tied. The Getting Started Class provides a solid foundation for further exploration of Shibari.
Step Two: See Renee's Handy-Dandy Rope Journey Flowchart
→ See your path after your first class.
Wondering where to go next?
Renee's Flowchart will help you to see your options for next steps, and get a better understanding of just who Dan picked as a partner!
View Renee's handy-dandy flowchart for newcomers! <---
List of possible next steps for you:
Rope Merry-Go-Round - This in-person event is designed to help those looking for a rope partner. Think speed dating but with rope.
BREW/Munch – an evening dedicated to socializing, forming new bonds, and embracing the vibrant spirit of the BDSM and Kink community.
Shibari Rope LAB - A LAB Event is a dynamic environment where participants come together to practice ties, skills, and objectives, all aimed at propelling your rope expertise forward.
Open Rope Practice - Unite with fellow rope enthusiasts for an evening of shared discovery. Whether you're seeking to work on your ties, refine your techniques, or revel in the energy of a supportive community, the Open Practice Event is your arena for growth.
Ropetastic ROMP - this your invitation to immerse yourself in your very own rope adventure. We've reserved the entire facility for you to unleash your imagination, explore your desires, and experience the thrill of rope in a way like never before.
Ready to Dive Deeper: 101 Course
→ For students ready to go deeper.
Shibari 101 Course: This comprehensive 12-hour course is designed to transform participants into skilled practitioners of Shibari rope bondage. It offers both online and in-person instruction, covering a wide range of topics, including foundational techniques, safety, consent, and advanced ties. The course is structured to take bondage beginners and transform them into Bedroom Bondage Bosses!
Visit our Youtube Channel
Learn more about Shibari and All Tied Up San Diego! Click on the video, or click here. Note: Since the video are 18+ you must go to Youtube to view them.
If you are considering learning, hear what others are saying . . .
Best Safety and Intro Course Around!
All Tied Up’s safety and intro class is by far the most comprehensive and relevant I’ve attended. As a bottom, I’ve experienced several different “getting started” classes with new riggers over the years, all of which gave the same basic info. Renee’s contribution to All Tied Up truly sets it apart. Her inclusion and even emphasis on bottom education is undoubtedly paving the way for a safer community for everyone.
Quick Ticket Links Here!
We have a lot of events. If you know the one you want to find click the plus sign.
UPCOMING SEPTEMBER DATES - Ticket Links
September 26th - Open Practice Event @ 7:00
September 26th - Try One On Event @ 7:00 <--- Beginner Event
September 26th - Rope LAB Practice @ 7:00
September 26th - Getting Started Class @ 7:00 <--- Prerequisite Event
September 27th - Rope Partner Speed Friending/Dating Event @ 6:45
September 28th - BREW/Munch Event @ 6:30 at Fifty9Fifty Local Eatery in Tierrasanta
UPCOMING OCTOBER DATES
October 9th - Rope for Sex Class - Part 2
October 11th - Ropetastic ROMP
October 11th - Try One One Event @ 7 PM <--- Experience Event
October 11th - Ropetastic ROMP - Theme TBD!
October14th- Getting Started Class @ 9:30 AM
October14th - Try One On Event @ 10:00
October14th - Rope LAB Practice @ 12 Noon
October 24th - Open Practice Event @ 7:00
October 24th - Try One On Event @ 7:00
October 24th - Rope LAB Practice @ 7:00
October 24th - Getting Started Class @ 7:00
October 26th - BREW/Munch Event @ 6:30 at Fifty9Fifty Local Eatery in Tierrasanta
Meet Our Main Instructors
Dan and Renee have an incredible relationship that all started years ago (before All Tied Up San Diego) and has blossomed in so many ways. Click the link and listen to the first episode where they share about Renee's first kinky event.
This is a great way to get to know us!
Helpful Information Posts
What Our Students Are Saying
Interesting, informative, and fun
No pressure, put your mind at ease you are in good hands with Dan and Renee! Their class is extremely informative, not only about getting started in rope, but in the kink community as well. It is a must and sets a good foundation to build on.
Absolutely necessary for all
I’ve been in the community for 25yrs. And this class was great. Yes it’s must for all shibari people, but as a Dom this class is what I would consider a must for all tops, bottoms, Doms and subs. They open up the ideology and perspective of both top and bottom. They make you see how simple yet paramount the basics are. I seriously advise all of you who are new as well as experienced in kink to take this class. Dan and Renee are full of kink, intelligence and knowledge. 5stars!!
Definitely NOT a waste of time.
Very thorough instruction with a welcoming group of people
I attended the getting started class. The staff were professional, yet fun, and very kind. I felt safe and welcomed to the community. The information given was comprehensive, presented thoughtfully, and had an emphasis on safety and personal advocacy. I felt very comfortable throughout the sign up process, lecture based class, and brief hands on tying demonstration at the end. The atmosphere was great, the people were great, and I really don’t have anything negative to say. I have already decided to go to another event tomorrow! I would definitely recommend this group if you are interested in rope!
Or maybe you want to do a bit of self-discovery?
Take our Rope Type quiz.
Since 2015
We started All Tied Up San Diego to provide opportunities for the San Diego rope community to come together, practice, and share their love of rope.
Since then, we have hosted more than 1,000 events, and more than 5,000 unique individuals have participated in our in-person and online classes, learning how to create amazing experiences using rope.
We also support the San Diego Leather Realm at the San Diego Pride Festival as a sponsor, helping bring an educational experience to those interested in learning more.
Experience
We bring years of experience, not just as shibari rope bondage instructors, but as a teacher-of-teachers (Dan) and (Renee) as a psychotherapist, to each interaction.
Therefore, you will be taught both hard and soft skills to improve your communication and interpersonal skills.
Skills that will not only benefit you in shibari but also transfer to any environment. Easily and quickly.
Your Safety Matters
As it is being taught in many cases, we also believe that shibari rope
bondage is dangerous and puts both partners at risk of physical,
emotional, and mental harm. Consequently, harm can last a lifetime.
Therefore, we spend time focusing on safety and risk mitigation. You get to learn from our mistakes and gain valuable knowledge on how to mitigate the risk.
You will learn to develop self-awareness and a better understanding of human behavior to better identify issues.
Learn observational skills that help you to assess a situation quickly.
These skills will help you communicate more effectively, build confidence, improve connection, and deepen intimacy.
Gain profound knowledge about yourself and your partner.
Grow Community
Our goal has always been to help increase the shibari rope community and provide
opportunities for people, like you - solo or with a partner - to begin
learning about shibari rope bondage.
We offer a series of experience courses designed to help you gain confidence, increase communication, deepen intimacy, ensure consent, and mitigate risks.
In the end, you will have the skills and confidence to go to any shibari rope event, anywhere, and have the understanding of how to engage other lovers of rope bondage so that you can have the experience you desire.
If you have any questions or concerns, please contact us!
Sincerely,
SirKnottyDan & ReneeHayBailey
Owners & Lead Instructors
Wish I took this class much sooner!
I signed up for this class but I had to reschedule due to illness. They were very accommodating and moved me to the next class that would fit my schedule. The information I got out of the class was very helpful and I wish I took it years ago. Dan and Renee are very enthusiastic teachers and made the space feel very open and welcoming. I’m looking forward to coming back again and continuing my journey!
Learn Shibari
What Is An Event Like?
Something truly special.
A place where regular people come together to share a common joy.
Experience
Experience the thrill of tying or being tied.
In-person or online, with a live instructor showing you the keys to making it amazing.
Find New Friends
Find like minded individuals who share your desire for something different.
Take a step forward towards relationships.
Safety
Your safety is our priority.
Come to our safer, consent-driven environment.
Stop wondering - start doing.
Come Together
Many people come as a couple to find ways to add something new to their relationship.
Share a new experience together.
Or Alone
Singles are welcome and there are many individuals looking for others who want to tie or be tied.
Inclusive
We welcome everyone.
We are an inclusive community.
Learn Shibari
Who We Are
All Tied Up San Diego is a group for rope bondage enthusiasts of all kinds. We are committed to safety, education, and growth of the rope community in the San Diego region.
This is an all-inclusive group for rope lovers of all styles.
If you love to tie or be tied, come join us!
Our Mission Statement
All Tied Up San Diego is a group for adults, 18 years and older, committed to the safety and education of both Tops and bottoms interested in having rope as part of their experience.
Providing opportunities for the rope community of San Diego to come together, practice, and share their love of rope.
What We Believe
We believe that education comes first - then the experience.
If you are a new Top or bottom, we want to help educate you so that you have a great experience.
Click the button to learn more.
What We Offer
Our Experience Courses offer instruction in a form of Japanese shibari and western style rope bondage.
Classes range from beginner to high-intermediate level rigging.
Click the button to learn more.
Amazing
I am a complete newbie in this community and for being a beginners class for rope, I got a tremendous amount more out of it than I had hoped Dan and Renee are a great team with a wide range of experience and I left feeling as if I know everything I need to comfortably navigate the community, interact with others and potential partners, dos and don’t that I would have never considered, definitely more confident and ready to attend more events overall thanks to them!
Amazing staff and owners
All tied up is amazing they made my sister and I feel comfortable and welcomed. We will definitely be back again.
Excellent course
The instructors are excellent at cultivating and safe and comfortable environment for learning and expression. Everyone was extremely kind, helpful , and welcoming. I learned a lot and would recommend this for any other beginners.
More than 100 Episodes Published
Dan and Renee are the lead instructors at All Tied Up San Diego. They have an incredible relationship that all started years ago and has blossomed in so many ways. Click the link and listen to the first episode where they share about Renee's first kinky event.
Stop Wondering & Start Learning!
Get Started With Your First Class Now!
All activities are educational, consent-based, and conducted in a structured, supervised environment. No alcohol or altered states are permitted. Participation requires adherence to safety and communication protocols.
Your participation implies you have read the Event Etiquette and Rules and signed our event waiver.
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