All Tied Up San Diego
Frequently Asked Questions About Events

We are sure you have questions. Hopefully this list will answer many of them. If we do not cover the questions you have please contact us.

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How do I start?

Great question, everyone must start with our class on safety and introduction to rope called "Getting Started."  The class can be done In-Person or in an Online version.  However, only the In-person version will allow you to attend our In-Person events. This for everyone's safety.

We have laid out a simple path for you to move from your first event to doing amazing, connected, intentional, and fully functional rope bondage successfully.  Click this link for more details.

Or, you can book a private lesson with us and get hands-on instruction in the privacy of your own location.

How do I know when events are being held?  

Check out our Events Page. 

Sign-up for our email notifications.

Where are the events held?  

Event locations are not posted on our website. Our events are held in facilities that we rent. Currently we do not have a physical location of our own. The vast majority of our events are held in Central San Diego.  Some are held in Northern San Diego County. 

We NEVER hold events at our listed business address on El Norte Parkway in Escondido. That is only a PO Box. 

To learn where an event will be held simply purchase your ticket and it will be given to you on the confirmation or in a separate email communication. If you purchase a ticket and cannot find the event information please contact us at least 1 hour prior to the event.

Who comes to these events?  

Lots of different people! People of all genders, ethnicities, identities, ages (18+), sizes, and couples and singles alike are enthusiastically welcome.

Is the location accessible?  

We are very sad to say that our current class location is not currently wheelchair accessible, and will most likely be difficult for someone with mobility issues to access.  We are at the top of a flight of stairs in an industrial building.  Once you are inside, all areas are on one level. 

Our Course location is on the first floor with a slight change in elevation due ground to floor change. 

Our BREW/Munch locations are typically accessible. Please message us ahead of time to confirm. 

What is Shibari?  

Shibari, also known as Kinbaku, is an art form using learned skills to perform sensual, dramatic, and erotic rope bondage. Traditional shibari has its origins in Japan.  Shibari is a style of rope art, it is not the only style. We welcome all styles of rope artists!

All Tied Up San Diego recognizes the cultural and societal differences between the East and the West and typically identifies as doing Western Shibari style rope instruction.

Is rope bondage safe?

Beginning rope work under the direction of an All Tied Up instructor is generally a very safe and fun activity.  Rope play in general is considered “edge play,” which means you have the potential to be hurt.  We will cover most of the safety aspects of rope during the introductory class, and learn to apply them in the 100 and 200 Series of classes.  We strive to create a safe and fun environment, but like in any other sport or activity we make no guarantees that it is safe to do rope work.

What is the environment at a Rope Practice & Instruction event?  

To the surprise of many first time attendees, the events are very laid back and friendly.  We work to create a welcoming environment in which people can share and experience rope safely.  Check out our Event Etiquette page for more information.

Do I need a partner or can I come alone?

Having a partner is a great way to attend. However, some people do not have a partner or friend they can bring.  

We welcome everyone who comes to our beginner events, solo or partnered, and we can help you to find other singles looking to do ties. 

If the class includes doing ties, then we will post guidelines for that event related to those coming solo.

Please come open minded to work with anyone, regardless of their gender identity and sexual orientation. As with all things that come with adult responsibility, you will however have to work at finding partner(s) for future events.  Our community has a great communication system in place to help you meet people and become part of the community after you take the Getting Started Class.

Is there nudity?  

There is no nudity at our Munch or Getting Started Classes, which are public events.

Our current venue allows for nudity for our private events, however there is no expectation or requirement that anyone remove any clothing. 

Everyone who attends must sign waivers and rules forms, along with presenting a government issued I.D.  It is possible that some attendees will undress to their level of comfort based on the venue. This ALWAYS is a personal choice.

Do I have to undress?

No!  There is no requirement for anyone to undress; please only do what feels comfortable!  If  you want to remain clothed, we strongly recommend that  bras with an underwire not be worn.  We recommend wearing tight-fitting clothes that are cool and comfortable — something that you might wear to a yoga class, for example.

What is it like to be tied?  

Each experience is unique to the individual, however many tell us that it feels like a good hug or a massage.  More advanced experiences can lead to ties that are beautifully decorative, painfully torturous, tightly bound, and/or put you in a creative predicament.

What is it like to tie?  

As you begin to tie you will find that your focus is on safety, proper execution, and placement.  You may feel like you are going through a series of steps in order to achieve a particular outcome.  Over time you will find that safety will ALWAYS be a concern, but you will be able to improve your flow and control.

What do I need to do to come to an event?

If this is your first time, we recommend that you contact us and let us know you are interested.  We can then look for you at the event check-in and help you get started!  You do not need anything other than your government issued I.D. for the Getting Started class. 

For rope-centered event, check out what materials to bring - What Do I Need to Come To An Event?

Can I just watch?  

After you have taken the Getting Started Class, you can just watch.  Watching is an acceptable action during an event, provided you are not interrupting or disturbing (being inappropriate) others. Many new attendees do spend time watching the amazing ties that are done by the more experienced Riggers and bottoms in our group.  This is a good way to learn too!

That being said, this is not a place to simply come and watch. Participation at some level during the event is expected.

Is there food?

We provide light snacks, water, and juice drinks for Rope Practice & Instruction events.  The munch is typically at a brewery or restaurant at which you can purchase your own food, when available.

What about consent?    

In the rope community, and in all of the kink community, consent is one of the primary matters to consider and receive PRIOR to doing ANYTHING with ANYONE.  Make no assumptions; do not touch anyone without their permission. Even before you hug someone you should ask, “May I hug you?”  If you receive a “Yes!” then you have consent.  A “No!” means . . . NO!

At All Tied Up events words like, “stop,” “quit,” “no,” etc. . . . are all taken very seriously.  If anyone is saying these words we expect the Top to stop and respect the request of the bottom.  Any violation of this will result in immediate ejection from the event.

Tops: The Kinkdom is a land full of consent, negotiation, and communication. If you did not receive an explicit, assertive, "YES" then you do not have permission to do things to a bottom that have not been negotiated. If you "think" you might want to do "something" then you better ask before you do it.

Bottoms: You have the right and responsibility to speak up, in the moment, when something is happening to you that you do not like, did not want, did not negotiate, or for any other reason that you come up with. 

How can I contact you outside the website?

Our current email address is: AllTiedUpSanDiego@gmail.com

I have a question that is not covered here?  

Contact us and let us know!

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